Do you ever have moments where you think everything is out of control? That there’s chaos and turmoil whirling about you? Moments where you are short-tempered and sarcastic to your loved ones? I certainly do. Sometimes I huff and puff, and stomp around the house with an ugly scowl on my face. I say things I later regret. I feel the physical symptoms in my body. My face is hot and flushed, my heart races, my mouth goes dry, and my head starts to pound. I feel that loss of control and it distresses me even more, because I’m letting it happen. Then I feel shame for loosing control over myself. Shame for showing my partner my ugly behavior.
I like to think of myself as an advanced human being. I contemplate, I read voraciously, I study. I constantly seek to better myself. But in those moments of anger and distress I blame others. In those moments I feel I am a victim of my environment. Something made me feel that way. In those moments it’s like being in a black hole.
Our thoughts exist to create situations, events, and circumstances to reflect back to us what we really believe. Our thoughts help to create our experiences. What we experience is from what we believe, or think about. To change our experiences we have to change our thoughts.
We attract experiences to us that match our energy pattern – the energy created by our thoughts. Having a positive attitude comes from the way we think. Positive thoughts literally puts us in touch with positive experiences.
If I believe that life is hard and unfair, then it will be so. If I believe there is chaos in my house and life, then there will be. If I believe I have no control over myself, then I won’t. If I believe anxiety leads me, then it will. Realizing that my thoughts and beliefs determine my experiences, will stop me in my tracks in those distressing moments.
I believe the next distressing moment I have I will be able to keep my energy positive. I believe I will be able to gain my composure and not make sarcastic comments. The next distressing moment I have I will experience positive thoughts. So bring it on life!
“The life of inner peace, being harmonious and without stress, is the easiest type of existence.” Norman Vincent Peale
The Reflective Self 