In honor of Valentine’s Day I wrote a list on how to be a great couple all year round. Being in a relationship is one thing, but being in a healthy, happy relationship is another. I’ve been with my sweetheart for over 7 years. We’ve figured out what works and what doesn’t. We are still learning actually. People grow and change over the years. It’s important to grow together, to support each other, to be friends as well as lovers.
- Reminisce about happy times.
- Accept one another.
- Have time with each other that doesn’t involve the tv, phone, internet, etc;
- Make future plans together whether it’s a camping trip, or trying out a new coffee shop.
- Watch comedies and laugh together.
- Be courteous – always.
- Always kiss goodnight and good morning.
- Read books, poetry, or bible verses to each other.
- Act silly together.
- Never, ever speak badly about your partner behind their backs, ever.
- Everyday tell someone one nice thing about your partner.
- Tell them about your day. Did something make you think of them?
- Don’t compare them to anyone.
- Give them your full attention when talking.
- Lavish them with praise.
- Ask about their thoughts, opinions, and feelings.
- Take pride in them and show it.
- Say you’re sorry.
- Do nothing together.
- Pray or meditate together.
- Give each other space.
- Encourage their interests. If something feeds their soul, it should be held sacred by you.
- Learn something new together.
- Make each other cookies.
- Forgive them.
- Let go of pettiness.
- Leave love notes.
- Keep promises.
- Give them a deep, wet kiss that lingers forever.
- Whisper I love you, in their ear. It sounds so nice that way.
A good marriage is that in which each appoints the other guardian of his solitude” -Rilke
What have you found that promotes growth and happiness in a relationship?
